My ex-husband lives next door with ‘the woman’ who was pivotal in my marriage breakdown.
That is the truth.
As I am sat writing this post, their bedroom is about 2 metres away in the adjoining house.
Many people I speak to wonder how I stay calm in this circumstance.
Trust me that I didn’t for a long time.
I used to rant and rave about it.
You see it wasn’t in the plan! It was supposed to be temporary.
He moved there to rent a room when we first split up 9 years ago but then the man who owned the house moved and sold to my ex husband.
Very shortly after he moved her in!
I had a problem with it for a long time.
It span around my head and kept me awake at night.
But then I had an interaction with a very wise man.
He said to me, “Why do you continue to think about it?”
At first I flustered and pushed against what he was saying.
I thought I could relieve my suffering by ranting 😂
But then I really heard what he was pointing to.
I think that was my first inside out realisation.
I saw that it was not my strange living situation that was the problem.
I saw that it was my thinking about my strange living situation.
The more I ranted about it, the more I felt bad!
SO I STOPPED!
It was like I realised that I was creating my own suffering and it didn’t make sense to do that to myself any more.
Suddenly I was able to stay calm despite my circumstances.
What a relief.
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