The Confidence Myth: Why You Don't Need to ‘Feel Ready’ to Take Action
"You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." — Zig Ziglar
Introduction:
Feeling stuck because you don’t feel “ready”? You’re not alone. High-achieving Gen X women often feel held back by the idea that confidence is a requirement for action. But here’s the truth: confidence, as we know it, is a myth. You don’t need to feel “ready” to take the steps that will propel your life and career forward. In fact, the journey to growth begins with embracing discomfort and taking action despite it.
Here’s how to challenge the confidence myth and unlock your potential.
1. Confidence Isn’t the Goal—Peace Is
Society often tells us to “build” or “grow” confidence, as though it’s a measurable trait we’re missing. However, what we actually desire isn’t confidence—it’s the absence of discomfort. That discomfort shows up when we consider tasks outside our comfort zone, like public speaking or launching a new project.
Takeaway: Instead of waiting for that illusive confidence, focus on cultivating peace and acceptance with your discomfort by being present to your emotions. This mindset shift allows you to act without being ruled by fear.
2. Discomfort Is a Sign of Growth
When faced with a daunting challenge, your mind and body may react with fear, self-doubt, and even physical tension. These sensations aren’t signs that you’re incapable—they’re indicators that you’re stretching into new territory. This is part of your natural learning process.
Actionable Tip: Understand discomfort as a sign of growth. Write down one uncomfortable action you’ve been avoiding and take one small step toward it today.
3. Feelings Are Not Facts
Your mind often creates stories about your capabilities based on past experiences and fears, but these thoughts don’t reflect your true potential. As you take action, your mind-body system will adapt, and what once felt impossible will soon feel second nature. For instance, recording live videos may seem terrifying now, but with repetition, it becomes as routine as brushing your teeth.
Perspective Shift: Remind yourself that your thoughts and emotions don’t determine what you’re capable of. Take action first, and let your feelings catch up.
4. Action Is the Cure for Self-Doubt
Spending endless time trying to “build confidence” keeps you stuck in a loop of inaction. The real antidote to self-doubt is taking small, consistent steps toward your goals. Each step builds momentum, helping you realize that your fears were unfounded.
Example: Start by practicing what scares you in a low stakes setting. Nervous about public speaking? Record a short video for yourself before sharing it with a trusted friend.
5. Redefine Failure as Feedback
Fear of failure often masquerades as a lack of confidence. But failure isn’t a reflection of your worth—it’s an opportunity to learn. By reframing failure as feedback, you create space to experiment, iterate, and grow.
Mindset Tip: After each attempt, ask yourself, “What can I learn from this experience?” This question shifts your focus from judgment to growth.
Your Path Forward: Thrive Beyond the Confidence Myth
High-achieving women don’t need to wait for confidence to strike before stepping into their power. By embracing discomfort, taking purposeful action, and reframing failure, you’ll unlock the freedom to pursue your biggest dreams. Remember, confidence isn’t something you “find”—it’s something you develop by showing up consistently.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If this resonated with you, it’s time to deepen your journey. Watch the Thriving Women Approach Masterclass to discover strategies for overcoming self-doubt, aligning with your true purpose, and thriving authentically in every area of your life.
Take the leap today—your most fulfilling life is waiting.
